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My first SCA sister is gone
Sep. 9th, 2013 02:28 pmThe following is a copy of what I just sent in to be Posted to the West Kingdom Memoriam page
My First SCA sister. Well, technically, Alicianne would count as my second, since on the day I adopted my SCA mother, Jenyvr of Squalid Manor, Jenyvr already had a babe in arms, but since Terah couldn't yet communicate at that point, in my heart Alicianne was my first SCA sister--she adopted Jenvyr within days of my doing so, and for my early SCA years in Oertha she was my closest friend. Ann joined my modern family for Christmas holidays, and she was the person my (biological) mother contacted to do the arrangements/invite people when mom decided that she wanted to throw me a surprise party for my 18th Birthday.
Alicianne was not what she would have described as a "happy" person, but she was "Easily Amused", and she and I had made matching t-shirts with just that motto written upon them. We also made ourselves matching costumes for a decadence revel sometime in the mid 1980's. It was so not a style (blue swede leather push-up bodice thingie, white off-the-shoulder underdress, and blue skirt) that I would have chosen on my own--I would have been way too embarrassed to wear something that... provocative (even to a "decadence" revel) if it had been my idea, but with her encouragement (and willingness to accept full credit for the idea) I agreed, and we had such fun making them, and wearing them to the event. Years later I turned the leather into a lovely pair of gloves.
When I moved away to Atenveldt we kept in occasional touch, thanks to my weakness for long-distance phone calls, and when I returned to Eskalya we had no problems picking back up a close friendship as though no time had elapsed. I have rarely had friend who was not a lover with whom I hung out so often and so regularly as she and I did. I miss that.
Then I moved away again (An Tir that time), and we were once again reduced to infrequent phone calls (while I got my first email address around then, she resisted getting one). A few years later I returned to Oertha, but to Winter's Gate that time, and she stepped up as Princess. On her first trip up to Winter's Gate after I arrived I was showing her the tunic I had just completed for my new boyfriend, and she said (with all the fake haughtiness a Princess, who is also your sister, can muster) said "You never made me a new tunic".
"You never asked me to", I replied.
"You never made me a new tunic" says she.
"Yes, your highness, let me leave site, I will be back soon" says I.
So I hurried home and got my (and the boyfriend's) fabric stash, went back to site and showed her what I had available. She choose a green fabric for the tunic, a dark blue for the neck facing, and some golden yellow to separate the two (she was always a herald--one doesn't put a colour on a colour! and all three feature on her coat of arms). So as the event progressed I went to work and managed to cut and hand-sew the tunic to completion before she had to return to Eskalya at the end of the weekend (see photos taken at the Eskalya Yule event (December 9, 1995, AS XXX) to see the finished result). It was so much fun to make a gift for such a dear friend, and it made me smile to see it every time I saw her wearing it at an event for years thereafter (and she said it was one of her favorite tunics, and it had been made of a sturdy, lasting, fabric, so she wore it for many years).
We continued to be close whenever we lived in the same town (two more times after I left Fairbanks), and I always enjoyed hanging out with her and working on projects together and generating minor mischief.
Sadly, once I moved far enough away that long distance phone calls were no longer an option we drifted out of touch--she never did take to using email if it could possibly be avoided. As a result she has been one of the reasons I have been hoping to make another visit home to Oertha, so that we could catch up in person, but, alas, while I will likely get back there one day, she will not be there to greet me.
Kareina Talvi Tytär, Viscountess, OL, currently residing in Drachenwald
My First SCA sister. Well, technically, Alicianne would count as my second, since on the day I adopted my SCA mother, Jenyvr of Squalid Manor, Jenyvr already had a babe in arms, but since Terah couldn't yet communicate at that point, in my heart Alicianne was my first SCA sister--she adopted Jenvyr within days of my doing so, and for my early SCA years in Oertha she was my closest friend. Ann joined my modern family for Christmas holidays, and she was the person my (biological) mother contacted to do the arrangements/invite people when mom decided that she wanted to throw me a surprise party for my 18th Birthday.
Alicianne was not what she would have described as a "happy" person, but she was "Easily Amused", and she and I had made matching t-shirts with just that motto written upon them. We also made ourselves matching costumes for a decadence revel sometime in the mid 1980's. It was so not a style (blue swede leather push-up bodice thingie, white off-the-shoulder underdress, and blue skirt) that I would have chosen on my own--I would have been way too embarrassed to wear something that... provocative (even to a "decadence" revel) if it had been my idea, but with her encouragement (and willingness to accept full credit for the idea) I agreed, and we had such fun making them, and wearing them to the event. Years later I turned the leather into a lovely pair of gloves.
When I moved away to Atenveldt we kept in occasional touch, thanks to my weakness for long-distance phone calls, and when I returned to Eskalya we had no problems picking back up a close friendship as though no time had elapsed. I have rarely had friend who was not a lover with whom I hung out so often and so regularly as she and I did. I miss that.
Then I moved away again (An Tir that time), and we were once again reduced to infrequent phone calls (while I got my first email address around then, she resisted getting one). A few years later I returned to Oertha, but to Winter's Gate that time, and she stepped up as Princess. On her first trip up to Winter's Gate after I arrived I was showing her the tunic I had just completed for my new boyfriend, and she said (with all the fake haughtiness a Princess, who is also your sister, can muster) said "You never made me a new tunic".
"You never asked me to", I replied.
"You never made me a new tunic" says she.
"Yes, your highness, let me leave site, I will be back soon" says I.
So I hurried home and got my (and the boyfriend's) fabric stash, went back to site and showed her what I had available. She choose a green fabric for the tunic, a dark blue for the neck facing, and some golden yellow to separate the two (she was always a herald--one doesn't put a colour on a colour! and all three feature on her coat of arms). So as the event progressed I went to work and managed to cut and hand-sew the tunic to completion before she had to return to Eskalya at the end of the weekend (see photos taken at the Eskalya Yule event (December 9, 1995, AS XXX) to see the finished result). It was so much fun to make a gift for such a dear friend, and it made me smile to see it every time I saw her wearing it at an event for years thereafter (and she said it was one of her favorite tunics, and it had been made of a sturdy, lasting, fabric, so she wore it for many years).
We continued to be close whenever we lived in the same town (two more times after I left Fairbanks), and I always enjoyed hanging out with her and working on projects together and generating minor mischief.
Sadly, once I moved far enough away that long distance phone calls were no longer an option we drifted out of touch--she never did take to using email if it could possibly be avoided. As a result she has been one of the reasons I have been hoping to make another visit home to Oertha, so that we could catch up in person, but, alas, while I will likely get back there one day, she will not be there to greet me.
Kareina Talvi Tytär, Viscountess, OL, currently residing in Drachenwald
