kareina

Today has been spent acquiring data. Now I need to actually think about the data. Not thesis data, but data as to my options from here. I now have:

Solid offers of places to stay in Alaska, Seattle, and right here in Tasmania. Yup, that's correct, Crian's parents, bless them, say I am welcome to continue living with them while I finish my thesis. I've spoken to my advisor about my options (before I knew I'd be welcome to stay right where I am), and he encourages me to stay in Tassie if I can, because finishing up the thesis will be much easier. (I totally agree with that!) I've found several options for short term, casual work through the geology department, and if I try I can *possibly* manage to scrape up enough hours to support myself in a tiny apartment within walking distance to uni. I found two such places near uni, one of which I will look at in the morning, and another that I can look at on Tuesday. I also determined that the one place available through the student housing office will not suit my needs--that one is a shared house, and the stuff that is already present in the house would make it difficult to open up all of the boxes of stuff we'd packed for shipping wherever I can find work to pull out

clovis_t's stuff. I've opened a bank account of my own, and as soon as I get the associated cards for that account, I'll be separating out our finances.

I can see three major short-term plans from here to finishing up the degree

A) head over seas, staying with friends/family and try to finish up that way. This would, likely, take the most amount of time to completing the degree, but would entail much fun.

B) get a place of my own, and try to earn enough money to afford it while also working hard on finishing up. This would, likely, lead to a degree much sooner than A).

C) keep living at

clovis_t's parent's house, get back to work on my thesis ASAP. This would, likely, lead to the fastest completion of the degree. Alas,

clovis_t, having never broken up with anyone before (I was his first girlfriend), is under the somewhat odd impression that he needs to make a "clean break", and therefore would like to not be living in the same house, even though there are sufficent rooms available for each of us to have our own.

Tomorrow, after I've caught up on sleep, I intend to actually sit down and write up all of the pros and cons associated with each path, and pick one. I am itching to *do* something towards the goal--if I'm moving locally, I want to move. If I'm heading overseas straight away, I want to be re-packing/organizing stuff and arranging shipping. If I'm staying put, I want to get back to work on the thesis straight away. But nothing is happening without sleep!

I am very, very grateful for all of the kind words, offers of assistance, hugs, and encouragement from everyone! It is much appreciated. Please also everyone who can offer the same to

clovis_t as well. He is a dear friend, and I will miss him, but it is very much time for us to head our separate ways.

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rustmon.livejournal.com

I would say C)if you can manage it. I think you really want to finish your thesis.

*HUG*

hunrvogt.livejournal.com

Based on watching many PhD candidates over the years, your best bet on finishing the thesis is to stay in Tassie. The folks that left school/ the general area rarely completed their thesis's.

sismith42.livejournal.com

*hugs* I'm not surprised that

clovis_t would feel weird about living under the same roof as "the ex", I've had loads of former partners and with some breaks I needed more distance than others...

Though I am rude enough to point out that, as the owners of the house have invited you to stay there, he could also be looking for a new place to live if he is terribly weirded out by your presence. (but then reality rears it's ugly head and I see how awkward *that* would be!)

On more useful matters: how much work is left on your thesis? If you were to stay somewhere on Tassie (either where you are or in some other housing situation), how long would it take you to complete things? Would shared housing on Tas, if it's a good situation, work for you, or are you in a place where you need your own tiny space?

Anyway, Good luck!

darttn.livejournal.com

Hi Reia,
If you want additional advice (which I doubt), I would recommend that you stay in Tassi until you have finished the degree, and then make your move to whereever your next phase of your life takes you. If it be option B or C, at least you would be able to concentrate on finishing the degree a lot faster. If you move now, you might never finish the degree and that would be a real shame!

I'm assuming that you will be going through the 'divorce' process? I would leave that part to Crian, rather than you getting it. Leaves you free to continue working, and he would seem to need it the most. I think it is wonderful of his mother to offer you a room while you finish up the degree. I also understand Crian's reluctance to have you there - even in a different room. But whether you try to find an apartment (if budget allows), or stay put - I do encourage to work on the degree first and foremost, and then take care of your itchy feet.

Love you tons, and you can give Crian my hugs as well. Keep me posted on your status.

Mom