Seeking suggestions as to where to go next.

[kareina]

As of this evening, Crian and I are no longer together. I still have to complete the writing of my PhD project, but not having a local partner, I am free to go anywhere I wish, either before I finish, and cope with the extra difficulties that would entail, or after I finish, should I decide to focus on that first. However, I’ve had itchy feet for a while—I normally move roughly once every three years, and I’ve been in Tassie for four this time.

However, my scholarship having long ended, there is only so much of my share of the savings account left to play with. Possibly enough for one plane ticket somewhere, possibly enough left to ship my belongings somewhere. If I go some where before finding employment, that wouldn’t leave anything to speak of to cover living expenses at the other end. Therefore I ask: are any of my friends or family interested in a short term live-in housekeeper whilst I finish up my PhD? I can’t spare eight hours a day worth of cleaning to earn my keep, but I could manage at least one or two a day (and, honestly, couldn’t live some pace without doing at least that much!).

Once I know what offers (if any) this request nets, I can decide if I want to go that route, or try one of the other (many) options available before me. (Yes, I have thought of some, no, I'm not going to list them here.)

Feel free to pass on this note to anyone who cares about me who might be interested in such an arrangement but won’t see it here, or if you like, to someone I don’t yet know, but you truly care about, and can recommend as a person(s) worth spending some time staying with (though, in that case, please also send me a note as to who they are, and why you’d recommend them).

Comments

[jupiterorbit.livejournal.com]

Well, I'm sorry you and Crian are no longer together.

Do you have general areas you want to go or can go for the next steps?

[kareina.livejournal.com]

I think I might like to stay on Earth for now, which is why I'm being vague when soliciting suggestions. (but if anyone has any good off-planet options they'd care to share, I'll happily listen to them.)

[jupiterorbit.livejournal.com]

I meant more like: Australia; Canada; Egypt. But if I hear of anything on Mars, I'll let you know.

[katerit.livejournal.com]

My home is far too small and infested with small creatures, but I'll pass your request along. I'm sorry this situation has come up while you are trying to finish your PhD work and I hope something really awesome comes up in the way of job offers.

[zenfury.livejournal.com]

You could hang out with us in Anchorage but we're very messy people...

[zenfury.livejournal.com]

Livejournal should let you edit your comments...

I just wanted to be clear that I was saying you are welcome here but you should be forewarned you would be living with the four little pigs. :-)

[kareina.livejournal.com]

To have such an offer from you, of all people, really, really touched me. Thank you so very, very much!

[baroness-eilis.livejournal.com]

(Hugs) When you have some vague idea where you'll be, let me know. Have many contacts...

[corva.livejournal.com]

Please drop me a line/IM if you would like to talk. I know I am far but you are never really far from me.

I honestly don't know what will be come of my current home or I would invite you right over! Please let us know how things progress.

I am sorry for the loss of the relationship. Know you are loved my many dear lady and that our thoughts are with you.

I am fighting my embarrassment at the rise of anger when I read your post. It confuses me that my mind and heart jumped to defend you, assuming that you had been hurt and wronged, without and real information that I ought to be doing this. I am working through this reaction.

[kareina.livejournal.com]

It has been a stressful couple of days, with a variety of very unrelated crises to deal with. I strongly suspect you are reacting to the sum effect of all of them. Please know that clovis_t and I remain very good friends, and always shall, but it is time to go our seperate ways. I will be in touch with you a bit later, when I've got time--right now there are some errands to run. What is your prefered IM?

[corva.livejournal.com]

You can find me at jen _ chara at yahoo dot com. I'll be running around some today but will check in as I can. It would be a goodness to read your words, if not hear your voice (that being my first choice but knowing how complicated and expensive that kind of call can be).

[kareina.livejournal.com]

A long time ago you were there for me to talk to on Yahoo. I've not seen you on line since I moved to Milan. Any chance you might be there sometimes, I'd love to hear from you, and perhaps I could be helpful for you? I also use Skype if you wish to do voice conversations for free...

[aumtattoo.livejournal.com]

Are you feeling Ok about this? I'm sending you *gentle hugs* through the ether. If you're willing to move to NZ I could ask around for you. Our house is tiny (smaller than my place in L.A. and we are bursting at the seams.

Regardless of what happened, I know the timing isn't great. You seem like a survivor so I am sure you will land on your feet.

[kareina.livejournal.com]

New Zealand has always been very, very high on the "I want to go there" list for me. It has additional advantages of not being too far away from Tassie, so if working long distance, there is a possibility of getting back here if needed, and the time zone is easier to coordinate for speaking with my advisor. If there happened to be somepace there in terms of a free place to live for the short term, it would be very appealing.

Granted, all options in front of my now sound appealing, so I need to make time to do a formal list of pros and cons, but have been running all day. Perhaps this evening.

Talking to my advisor about what is still to be done, if I were just working, and not dealing with any stressors in my personal life, I could, conceivably, finish in one month. He expects that if I get a flat within walking distance of uni and do odd jobs in the department I could finish in two months, but if I head to north America, where I'd have an active social life, it might take six months to get the thesis submitted.

I suspect that going to NZ and leaving my stuff here in storage, the time to completion would be closer to what I could manage if I stayed here, but would have the added bonus of an adventure! So, please, if anyone there wants a one-to-two month housekeeper, in exchange for room and board, get them in touch with me. I don't eat much.

[madryn-1960.livejournal.com]

Thinking of you, and truely shocked and sorry. You sound so calm, can it be true you are so accepting? I do hope so.

I wish we could help with a space - we are so stretched financially with Hans supporting 2 families, and worried out of his mind right now.

I can offer you some lettuce...it's organic.

Lots of love.

[madryn-1960.livejournal.com]

PS If storage of your gear is an issue, we can probably sort something out. Let us know. I'm not sure what Crian plans to do with his share of the stuff at Howden, but if he takes it away, there's more room for yours.

[kareina.livejournal.com]

The only path I can think of at the moment that might need gear storage if is aumtattoo happens to line me up a New Zealand offer. If I go there, it would make sense to leave my stuff packed and ready to ship here and come back for it before heading to whatever job I find after I graduate. But I will keep you posted.

[ariadne3.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry to hear that the decisions panned out this way. I know that this is, as you said in an earlier post, that you love him (them both) enough to let go, but I still felt a little sad for all of you when I read this. I am glad that you have opportunities ahead of you. I don't know of anyone right now with a space you might fit in, since I'm hardly leaving my home-and-school sphere myself, but I'll keep an eye out.

[rustmon.livejournal.com]

big hugs to you both and lots of love and best wishes.

[thisfox.livejournal.com]

We have a couch and always welcome random visitors, but I'm not sure you'd much like The Ghetto, even though it is a lovely University Student-ish sort of SCA house. Our two kitchens are both very messy and I know how much you can't stand that, you'll likely find somewhere better suited.

Strays are always invited in and fed, though, and you know how to contact me. Give a call if you decide Sydney is for you. Best of wishes, dear.

[kareina.livejournal.com]

Thanks, it means a lot to me that I have more choices available than I am able to avail myself of! If I do leave the country, it would probably mean flying out from Sydney, in which case I might arrange my travel to visit for a day on my way, if you happen to want to see me...

[fjorlief.livejournal.com]

While guests are always welcome at Acorn Cottage, I haven't the resources for long term support... Should you find yourself in Portland, you would have a place to crash, of course. Sadly, I cannot afford a housekeeper, even one as skilled and lovely as yourself. I hope that the right situation turns up for you in a timely fashion.