A poll (but no buttons, sorry)

[kareina]

This afternoon someone I know referred to me as "promiscuous". This is not a word with which I have ever self-identified, and even if it had applied at some other time (which I don't think it did), it really doesn't sound, to me, like an appropriate description of the current phase of my life. Therefore, either he was mistaken, or, the word doesn't mean what I think it means.

I ask you all:

Would you count someone as promiscuous if, over the course of the past six years there have been only three indivuduals with whom they have become close enough friends to share "proper" kisses?

A) yes
B) no
C) that depends

Would you count someone as promiscuous if, over the course of the past six years there have only been two individuals with whom they shared a sufficent level of mutual love/trust to become lovers?

A) yes
B) no
C) that depends

Does your answer change for different gendered "someones" as used in the questions?

Feel free to elaborate on what factors would make a difference if you select "that depends".

Alas, on my level of free account, I can't create an automatic poll, but I'm good with a spreadsheet, so will tally the answers (if I get any) and post the numbers later...

Comments

[kareina.livejournal.com]

to give him credit--he'd deleted the comment before I saw the e-mail telling me it was there. So I sent him a message in reply, but he hasn't replied to that yet.

[glass-violet.livejournal.com]

No, I don't think so. You sould not write stuff like on a person's public (and even if it's friends only, there are still lots of people who read it) space. If that's how he feels then fair enough, but he ought to have written to you via privte message or email. It's just not cool to wrte stuff like that on someone's 'wall'.

[massaria.livejournal.com]

Gotta agree with not_an_elf and glass_violet here, I got his wall post comment in my profile when I logged on so it doesn't matter that he deleted it, any one of your friends with the fb profile set up to get notices of people's activity would have still seen it. Posting shit like that is seriously not on. I'd be furious if that happened to me because all the people in my research field are on fb as "friends". Even if it were true and you were a hooker on the side it would still be totally unacceptable. Doing it to you (or anyone else) at this time is just so stupid and cruel I am speechless. Plus, it was totally out of line considering the above stats so HELL NO to all three questions.

Seriously, the thing that pisses me off about this is that you've felt you need to ask us these questions at all because that means he got to you with his stupid stunt and that is again so stupid and cruel I am speechless. And angry about it also (as you can tell from this rant).

Forget that stuff and go back to believing in yourself, like the Kareina we all know and love.

[kareina.livejournal.com]

Thanks! I don't suppose I'd mind if not for some serious problems that took place more than a year ago wherein someone said much, much less nice (and far, far less true) things about me, in the form of a written complaint to the Kingdom Seneschal. That incident made me just a tad paranoid, and inclined to make certain that facts are floating around out there for people to stumble upon...

But I've been really enjoying all of the comments posted here, so I'm glad I put this poll up.