I guess that's the difference between "friendship" love and "marriage" love. The intensity is just not the same. I love to see my friends happy, and in intimate relationships. I love to see my husband happy too, and sharing time with his friends, but I doubt many women would be happy to see their husband being intimate with another woman, and I certainly would not. You see it as self-denial, I see it as self-discipline, and an affirmation of my love and his that neither would seek deep intimacy with another.
I think it's the "depth of feeling" point that you're missing. When you find the right one, the feeling is so strong and deep and lasting, that by it's very nature it must be exclusive. Anyway, each to her own. We're both happy with what we have, which is the main thing. But you do often seem to imply that mono partners are missing out, which is entirely wrong. We think poly people are missing out, actually...
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Date: 2010-05-05 12:35 am (UTC)I think it's the "depth of feeling" point that you're missing. When you find the right one, the feeling is so strong and deep and lasting, that by it's very nature it must be exclusive. Anyway, each to her own. We're both happy with what we have, which is the main thing. But you do often seem to imply that mono partners are missing out, which is entirely wrong. We think poly people are missing out, actually...