One of the aspects of poly that has not been talked about is 'temping fate'. Wonder if you find someone you that you connect with more than your primary person? The connection could be they are better in a conversation or intamamently they are better fit or or or...
It seems that most poly's seem to be fishing for bigger fish to trade up to or they like the feeling of a new relationship. If you are the person on the other side you have to keep moving too because you never know when the music will stop and you will not be in a chair. This can put the whole relationship on uneven ground. Your looking, their looking, they hit a homerun for the weekend while you count the dustbunnies alone or visa-versa.
It comes down to what you are comfortable with. All of that aside, I am ok if people want to be poly as well as those that are not. I am ok with straight, bi or gay. I hold no judgement on my part other than I feel that people should know the pro's and con's. No one style should be a perfect fit for all of us. Everyone needs to find the type of relationship that works for them.
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Date: 2010-04-27 02:26 pm (UTC)It seems that most poly's seem to be fishing for bigger fish to trade up to or they like the feeling of a new relationship. If you are the person on the other side you have to keep moving too because you never know when the music will stop and you will not be in a chair. This can put the whole relationship on uneven ground. Your looking, their looking, they hit a homerun for the weekend while you count the dustbunnies alone or visa-versa.
It comes down to what you are comfortable with. All of that aside, I am ok if people want to be poly as well as those that are not. I am ok with straight, bi or gay. I hold no judgement on my part other than I feel that people should know the pro's and con's. No one style should be a perfect fit for all of us. Everyone needs to find the type of relationship that works for them.