I guess, that I don't believe honor, honesty and sexuality are related variables. That is to say, I believe they can be present or not in any model of a relationship. People are either concerned about the welfare of their partners or they aren't and their actions will be driven by their motivation.
I have a high twitch factor with the word "honesty". You write about how painful bullying is, and so often people use the word "honest" to hurt others with impunity. Opinions so often masquerade as "honest" responses that need to be shared regardless of how they land. Unless the honesty is truly delivered with the the goal of making thing better, as far as I am concerned it can be left unshared.
Honesty on how you relate and want to be related to in a relationship is imperative for a healthy relationship. I do not draw any negatives from that. Self Denial is a somewhat negatively charged word for self discipline or good self choices. No one I know responds to everything in their environment. We all make choices and hopefully we make the choices that are best for ourselves and the people we love.
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Date: 2010-04-25 04:59 pm (UTC)I have a high twitch factor with the word "honesty". You write about how painful bullying is, and so often people use the word "honest" to hurt others with impunity. Opinions so often masquerade as "honest" responses that need to be shared regardless of how they land. Unless the honesty is truly delivered with the the goal of making thing better, as far as I am concerned it can be left unshared.
Honesty on how you relate and want to be related to in a relationship is imperative for a healthy relationship. I do not draw any negatives from that. Self Denial is a somewhat negatively charged word for self discipline or good self choices. No one I know responds to everything in their environment. We all make choices and hopefully we make the choices that are best for ourselves and the people we love.