Yes, I agree, all forms of relationships require honesty and communication, be they romantic or platonic, monogamist or polyamorous.
From what you say here, and in your journal, you do sound like one of those true monogamists; so happy in your own relationship that you don't really notice the other options out there, and so it is easy not to pursue them. I admire and respect that when it happens, but am all to aware how very rare that is, both in the real world, and in "literature" (both in the sense of books and plays as written throughout the ages, and modern TV and movies).
It is difficult that literature on the one hand holds up monogamy as an "ideal" for which we "should" strive, and on the other holds up countless examples of how impossible that goal can be, for so very many people. Rather than living in a world which vilifies people for having the audacity to care for more than one person at a time, I prefer to live in a world where it is ok to love all whom thou wilt, an no one need ever lie about adhering to a rule which doesn't fit.
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Date: 2010-04-25 03:57 pm (UTC)From what you say here, and in your journal, you do sound like one of those true monogamists; so happy in your own relationship that you don't really notice the other options out there, and so it is easy not to pursue them. I admire and respect that when it happens, but am all to aware how very rare that is, both in the real world, and in "literature" (both in the sense of books and plays as written throughout the ages, and modern TV and movies).
It is difficult that literature on the one hand holds up monogamy as an "ideal" for which we "should" strive, and on the other holds up countless examples of how impossible that goal can be, for so very many people. Rather than living in a world which vilifies people for having the audacity to care for more than one person at a time, I prefer to live in a world where it is ok to love all whom thou wilt, an no one need ever lie about adhering to a rule which doesn't fit.