I make no judgement about what people do in their own lives (as long as abuse is not involved) but, yes, I often wonder if poly folks are tempting fate. I don't wanna be counting dust-buniies whilse my man is out cruisin' for a better/more interesting bed-mate. He might come home for his dinner later, but...what if he doesn't? Any anyway, I know what I'd been doing with dinner, the schmuck! That's why poly is not for me, I guess.