I think it was more your implication that if being attracted to others yet choosing to stay with just one is self denial. I accept that I do appreciate others, bit I choose not to persue that path. I do not percieve it as self denial. It's a choice I've made. It doesn't mean I'm being dishonest with anyone. If anything I'm more honest thatn some who deny they had eyes for anyone else when they have. I just don't see it as self denial. Sef control yes, but not self denial. You are fond of your lifestyle choice and thats fine, but don't bash oher people's choices either. Maybe you'd like to choose a word less confrontational than Self-Denial. Its just like you don't hate food, you just choose not to eat it after a certain time of day.