I will never, ever understand the women that blame the "other" women rather than blaming the one who broke the promise. It boggles my mind. It really does. Especially when they verbally condone it.
Option 2 should be about honesty and communication too. In fact, strong monogamous realationships require honesty and communication every bit as much as I suspect strong polyamorous ones do.
I do think it's fair to identify an element of self denial in option 2. Option 3 is about pleasure regardless of pain. While option 1 meets the classical definition of Hedonism in terms of optimizing pleasure (major pleasure, little to no pain).
For me the self-denial is almost un-noticeable. The best comparison I could think to give you probably relates to materialism. I tend not to find myself voraciously materialistic, but I suspect with my life in private industry and your life in academia, that I am more materialistic than you. From where I sit, acquiring material goods takes a certain commitment to a specific professional career choices. Your career focus seems to be more on knowledge and variety than on amassing material wealth. From where I sit you deny yourself goods and services because you have chosen a different path. Both Dr's different paths and focuses.
Not exactly your original point on bullying, but perhaps that makes sense on the monogamy front?
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Option 2 should be about honesty and communication too. In fact, strong monogamous realationships require honesty and communication every bit as much as I suspect strong polyamorous ones do.
I do think it's fair to identify an element of self denial in option 2. Option 3 is about pleasure regardless of pain. While option 1 meets the classical definition of Hedonism in terms of optimizing pleasure (major pleasure, little to no pain).
For me the self-denial is almost un-noticeable. The best comparison I could think to give you probably relates to materialism. I tend not to find myself voraciously materialistic, but I suspect with my life in private industry and your life in academia, that I am more materialistic than you. From where I sit, acquiring material goods takes a certain commitment to a specific professional career choices. Your career focus seems to be more on knowledge and variety than on amassing material wealth. From where I sit you deny yourself goods and services because you have chosen a different path. Both Dr's different paths and focuses.
Not exactly your original point on bullying, but perhaps that makes sense on the monogamy front?